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How your belief in 'not enoughness' is fucking up your Womb Choice relationship

So, if you're currently in or have been in a Womb Choice relationship...there is a very high likelihood that you have a belief in 'not enoughness' or 'never enoughness'.


And that very belief is what is causing you to be super attracted/love addicted to your Womb Choice...as he most reminds you of the person(s) who caused you to adopt this faulty belief in the first place.





You may have learned from your dad or mom (or both) and/or from childhood bullying at school or from negative experiences at school eg. being placed in Special Ed., that you are simply not enough.


I learned from my mother that I could never be enough.


One of my most painful memories was rushing home excitedly from elementary school, eager to show my mom my straight-A report card. I was convinced that this time, she would finally be proud of me. She would finally be pleased with me. She would finally express words of praise to me.


She looked at my report card...and said absolutely nothing. Zero reaction! Stone-cold facial expression.


I was devastated! I felt like there was NOTHING I COULD EVER DO to get my mother to approve of me.


This patterning continued to show up in my intimate relationships. I would try everything I could think of to please my boyfriends and gain their approval...only to be told by them that I STILL needed to do or be more! This patterning has played out most painfully with my Womb Choices!!!!


I would try in vain to be the best in bed.


I would try in vain to be the most submissive and accommodating woman they've ever dated!


I would try in vain to be the best cook, the best masseuse, the most well-behaved girlfriend, the most feminine wife, the best anything...only to be disappointed again and again and again.


While my efforts did gain me some brownie points, I was still painfully reminded that I wasn't enough and could never be enough.


You see, I recreated my mother in these very same men.


I kept trying to gain their approval and validation. I kept trying to prove myself to these men.

Always with the same devastating result -- I hadn't done enough or been enough to win them over.


Once I came to see that this was an energetic pattern, I was then able to do the internal work to shift this.


I used a process called Lacing (which I teach to my private clients) to rewire the negative programming. This process requires lots of repetition as I was replacing decades of negative programming with NEW programming that says: I AM ENOUGH.


I also had to let go of my chronic people pleasing, begging, pleading, crying, trying to convince him...


Lastly, I had to release my fear of losing him.


I wanted to know that I AM ENOUGH more than I wanted to hold onto him.


Once I AM ENOUGH became my default programming, I no longer felt attracted to men who reminded me of my mother.


Instead, I became a lot more attracted to and appreciative of men who clearly recognized and acknowledged my VALUE to them.


I could no longer settle for anything less as I was no longer a vibrational match to men who couldn't or wouldn't see my VALUE.


Lesley Tavernier

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